Barb was a native of Council Bluffs, Iowa, and a graduate of Abraham
Lincoln High School where she was a founding member of the AL pom pom
squad. She went on to obtain a Bachelors of Science degree in Education
and Psychology from Iowa State University where she was a Kappa Kappa
Gamma, and the life of the party.
Barb was loyal to and beloved by her hometown of Council Bluffs for her
selfless service to community, most notably with the Chamber of
Commerce. In 2017, Barb was honored by the Chamber as the CB Ambassador
of the year. She put her heart in to several community projects, a
favorite being the largest inclusive and ADA play space in Iowa, the
“Dream Playground”.
Barb was formally a beloved educator whose students often recalled her
as their favorite teacher and a true life-changer. She always had time
for anyone needing extra help and always offered snacks. After a career
transition, she became an admired and successful sales professional
with Kinseth Hospitality Company; a position she held and loved for 15
years. In 2014, she was honored as the Director of Sales of the year.
Barb was always laughing; it was her trademark.
She always had a 12 pack of Coke in her fridge. She loved art, music,
coffee, McDonald’s, and crossword puzzles. Every Christmas, she created
the most magical decorative holiday displays. She loved quoting her
favorite films and watching Hallmark movies. Forever a cheerleader, she
was a die-hard Nebraska Cornhusker and Kansas City Chiefs fan, and got
to celebrate the Chiefs’ first Super Bowl win in 50 years. She was
known to offer help at the grocery store or the gas station to those
who she could tell were struggling. She was passionate about making
others feel important and seen. She is the reason that her daughters
love to compliment others to make them feel good, as they’d seen their
mom do this her entire life. She was steadfast in her faith. She was
emphatically stylish. She was endlessly creative. She was inherently
competitive. She was the most brilliant person in every room.
Barb’s vivacious spirit lives on through her four daughters with the
love of her life, Tom Murphy: Liz Murphy Grimm (Rob), Katie Murphy
Rathe (Mark), Claire Murphy Sewell (Zach), and Caroline Murphy. Her
adored grandchildren: Max Murphy, Natalie Kate, Miles Thomas, Logan
Thomas, and Maren Colette. Her built-in best friends: her sweet
sisters, Nancy Dorr (Jim), Judy O’Brien, and Kate Bruce (Steve). Her
nieces: Anne Bailey (Chip), Jane Bruce (Elliah), Claire Bruce, and her
nephew, Robert Dorr (Justene). Her aunts: Diane O’Brien and Colette
Holmgard. Her wide circle of life-long friends and neighbors. And, her
eight grandpets that she loved petting and seeing photos of.
Barb was welcomed in to Heaven by her loving parents, Robert and
Elizabeth O’Brien, her one-of-a-kind big sister, Jacqueline Wintour,
and several beloved aunts and uncles. We know they are already drinking
wine and celebrating her arrival.
We are indebted to the world-class physicians who cared for Barb at
Jennie Edmundson hospital, specifically Dr. Mukherjee and the nursing
staff of angels: Kristin, Emily, Christina, Mirtha, Missy, Sarah,
Laura, Bailey, Mackenzie, Nicole, Jake, and Lindsay.
As a family, we are heartbroken to lose the most effervescent and
wonderful woman we were blessed with as a mom, grandmother, sister,
aunt, and friend. At only 68, we can’t help but think she had more to
do. But, we are endlessly proud of her. Her legacy of empathy and
kindness will live on forever, and be immortal.
Visitation will be held from 1:00 PM - 2:00 PM at Hoy Kilnoski Funeral
Home on Thursday, February 11, 2021.
Memorial Service will be held at 2:00 PM at Hoy Kilnoski Funeral Home
on Thursday, February 11, 2021. The family will direct memorials.